Most people report stress as being their number one problem at work, but there is a method of categorising pressure which can help you deal with stressful situations.
Put simply: it is to do with your ability of keeping your sense of perspective whilst experiencing a stressful situation. So when the pressure build you need to be able to build the skil of stepping back and considering where the stress ranks against real-life threatening experiences. Sounds easy doesn’t it – but how is this kind of mind-game carried out in your place of work?
Life is of course full of very stressful situations. But broadly speaking they can be categorised into various levels of severity. For example: thre is a clear distinction which is easy to grasp, between a life-threatening situation – like failing to do something on time for your boss, on the other.
Now measured against the stress categories above, most work related pressure is really quite minor. A deadline missed, a meeting attended late or an incomplete project, just can’t measure up against real-life threatening problems. And yet the stress levels experienced by some can be almost identical.
So nailing stress is all about keeping it in perspective. As you feel the pressure growing, step back for a moment and in your mind rate the likely outcome of failing to meet the deadline or attend that meeting.. Sure, you might upset some around you; it might even lead to your losing your job. But in the process of categorising those things that really matter, you’ll quickly see that none of the above are life threatening propositions. And once you have this one simple fact in perspective – the immediate stress will semm far easier to handle. Indeed you’ve just nailed your stress.
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We all makes mistakes, most of them we recover from fairly easily, others make us feel helpless and stuck. The later are usually the final straw type that follow a seemingly endless negative period where one thing after another is going wrong.
When we are in the midst of these bouts of bad luck our focus is on the negative and that means we are tuning out the positives in our lives.
Let me give you an example. The other day I asked I client who’d come feeling at the end of her tether and complaining of feeling strung out and anxious all the time. “If you didn’t feel stressed; what would you be able to do instead?”
She looked at me for a moment or two, opened her mouth to start to speak, changed her mind and paused. Then started to explain all the things that were making her stressed and how she didn’t want to be so stressed.
My client had got so used to focussing only on her stressed state and the reasons why she felt that way that her mind was stuck in that grove, seemingly unable to go in any other direction. It had become a deeply ingrained habit.
Habits like this and others are often the reason why people stay stuck with feelings of being helpless and hopeless.
The Easter break for most of us is over and it’s been the first day back to work, the morning spent staring perhaps at a pc screen and zapping into the delete folder as many e-mails as possible with a small sense of glee.
It is surprising sometimes to stop and discover what pleases us and how limiting these small unconsidered pleasures really are.
What if you decided at the beginning of the day the kind of discoveries, actions and exchanges with other people do please you that you’d like to have.
Perhaps you might decide to make at least one person smile today. That person could be a stranger on your train journey, the person who serves you at the coffee shop, the stranger that you help by holding the door open for them.
There are numerous ways for you to make this small event happen, but what you’ll notice now is that by having that thought for just a nano-second whilst reading this text images or notions of how it could happen and the immediate outcome have already popped into your head.
This is the marvel of your mind, once you give it direction it will set a course almost immediately. So why not put this to good use and populate your forthcoming days and weeks with a number of small but life enhancing events to look forward to that give you real noncommercial pleasure. Don’t limit yourself to my earlier suggestion include other nature-oriented pleasures like noticing the sunlight and clouds, or the trees emerging into bud as spring marches headlong into summer.
Set your imagination free and it will do the work for you. The thing about doing this is that it will become the norm over a relatively short period of time and you’ll notice the difference in many ways. You’ll feel more positive , you’ll attract new responses from the people around you because you are noticing more of what’s good in life. We tend to gravitate towards people with positive vibes and those that send out such vibes usually appreciate the simple pleasures in life and as a consequence suffer less stress. Think about it . . . . . and let me know.